Episode 4

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Published on:

8th Apr 2025

LTF | ECLIPSE DROP | The In Between

The essence of this episode centers on the notion that liberation necessitates an unwavering commitment to truth, even amidst the chaos of one's personal narrative. Melissa Allison candidly confronts the shadows that have long obscured her authenticity, articulating the profound ache of feeling unchosen and the societal pressures that compel individuals to don false facades. Through a raw and unfiltered monologue, she invites listeners to traverse the tumultuous terrain between safety and danger, emphasizing that true liberation arises only when one embraces their complete self, shadows included. This discourse serves as a clarion call for those who flinch when gazing into their own reflection, encouraging them to remain steadfast in their journey toward self-acceptance. Ultimately, the episode concludes with a challenge rather than definitive answers, urging listeners to engage in a personal ritual of reflection and introspection.

In a compelling exploration of the human experience, Melissa Allison delves into the profound shadows and brilliant illuminations that life presents. She articulates the notion that some thresholds in our existence are not marked by the gentle emergence of dawn but rather by the stark and dramatic transitions of an eclipse. This episode serves as an Eclipse Drop, a moment in which the usual paradigms are disrupted, revealing truths often hidden in the recesses of our consciousness. Through her raw monologue, Allison confronts the chaos and lies that have long governed her reality, reflecting on the deep-seated childhood wounds stemming from feelings of rejection and unworthiness.

The episode is a powerful testament to the necessity of acknowledging our shadows as a precursor to authentic liberation. Allison poignantly asserts that one does not need to be entirely prepared to embark on this journey; willingness is the key. She shares her personal narrative of having concealed her true self behind a facade of safety and compliance, only to discover that true danger lies not in authenticity, but in the repression of one’s essence. Her reflections resonate with those who have felt the pangs of exclusion and the struggle for self-acceptance, as she invites listeners to embrace their flaws and imperfections.

As the episode unfolds, listeners are encouraged to confront their own reflections in the metaphorical mirror that Allison presents. The message is clear: liberation is intertwined with truth, and often chaos must precede the healing process. The episode culminates in a challenge to the audience—a call to action that beckons them to engage with their own narratives and confront the eclipses in their lives. This is not merely a story of personal struggle; it is a universal invitation to acknowledge our shadows and reclaim our radiance with courage and honesty.

🌒 Key Takeaways:

  • Stepping into the shadow is not regression—it’s reclamation. It marks the moment you choose your truth over your performance.
  • Liberation begins with self-confrontation. You cannot be free while editing your essence to be more palatable.
  • In chaos and vulnerability, we find authenticity. The rawest parts of us are often the most honest—and the most powerful.
  • Retracing your steps is not about being lost. It's about learning the terrain with new eyes. This time, you’re not returning as the same version who left.

🌑 Eclipse Drop Ritual: “Breathe in the Eclipse”

✨ The Prompt:

What part of me slipped into the in-between?

1. Sit down. Light your candle if you wish. Take a sip. Breathe.

2. Open your journal.

3. Write three pages, stream of thought, without editing or judgment.

Let the answers rise—whether they make sense or not.

4. When you’re done, take a couple of breaths.

Then read it back slowly. Let yourself witness what surfaced.

5. Now, write a letter to that part of you—Invite them home.

And remind yourself:

You can breathe in the eclipse.
Transcript
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Not all thresholds are marked by sunrise.

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Some are carved in eclipse.

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A moment when shadow and light hold hands and neither lets go.

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This is an eclipse drop, A signal from the space between.

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A truth revealed.

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When the usual is undone.

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You don't have to be ready, just willing.

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For far too long, I have been hiding in the shadows, walking in the daylight of lies, putting on the smile, pretending to be safe.

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When the truth is I'm dangerous.

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I'm not safe at all.

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Ask any of the men I've been with.

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Ask any of the friends I've lost.

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I'm a mirror, and I don't flinch.

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Because I learned early in my life that it's not okay to be me.

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I struggled.

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I didn't understand why it was so difficult to make friends as a child.

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Why my teachers never seemed to like me, why not even my own mother wanted me around.

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But just as the forbidden is misunderstood, so too is my reflection.

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What you see when you look at me is the truth.

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And that truth, it hurts you.

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But the entire time, I'm holding space for you, reminding you that you are more than what you see, more than what you run from.

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When you look at me, you see audacity, foolishness, heart vulnerability.

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Ingredients many believe spark chaos.

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And yes, there is chaos, but only the best kind.

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Like Holly.

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I know that before there can be any healing, growth, authenticity, there must be destruction.

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And that scares people.

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Someone once said to get back on the right track, you have to go back down the path you took.

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I think that's true.

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Mostly the difference this time, retracing your steps is no longer about being lost.

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It's about education.

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Because now you know.

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And now I know.

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I know that Medusa was villainized by men who tried to exploit her.

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I know Kali is unnecessary chaos.

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I know Aphrodite wasn't the most beautiful, but she was the most revered.

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And I know.

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I know that I am like them.

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I no longer hide from my shadow.

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I no longer need the light to protect me from myself.

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I can live in both worlds.

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And like the eclipse, you might want to wear shades when you look at me.

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Because my radiance isn't free.

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It comes at a price.

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The truth.

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The truth beget liberation.

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Every eclipse hides the message this one left you.

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A ritual.

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It's waiting on the episode page.

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A prompt, a breath, a return.

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This has been an eclipse drop.

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A moment caught in the between.

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I'm Melissa Allison, and this is Loving the F.

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Where whispers are meant to be heard.

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If something stirred, you like it.

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Leave a comment.

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Tell me your story.

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I want to hear it.

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And if you're feeling brave, share it, because we're done being seen.

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It's time to be heard.

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About the Podcast

Loving the F
Redefining the Forbidden
Welcome to Loving the F – Redefining the Forbidden, where we strip away the illusions, speak the truth no one wants to say out loud, and embrace the messy, beautiful process of becoming.

I’m Melissa—storyteller, truth-seeker, and someone who’s lived enough life to know that transformation isn’t about following someone else’s roadmap. It’s about breaking the rules, trusting your own damn intuition, and blazing your own trail forward.

This isn’t a self-help podcast. I’m not here to tell you what to do—I’m sharing my own journey, the raw truths we all face, and the reality of what it takes to reinvent yourself from the ground up. Not the Instagram version. Not the polished, pretty, packaged-for-mass-consumption version. The real sh*t.

💡 What to Expect?
✔ Unfiltered Personal Stories – The truth behind transformation.
✔ The Highs, The Lows, and The WTF Moments – No sugarcoating. No pretending.
✔ A Deep Dive into Reinvention – What it really takes to break free from the past.
✔ Trusting Yourself Over the Noise – Because no one else has your answers.

This is about owning your story, trusting yourself, and redefining what’s possible—on your own terms. If that sounds like something you need, pull up a chair.

🎙️ New episodes weekly. Available wherever you get your podcasts.

🔗 Connect with Me:
📲 Instagram: TheMelissaAllison
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📩 Email: forbiddenqueen64@gmail.com

🚀 Because the F isn’t just for “forbidden” – it’s for freedom.

About your host

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Melissa Allison

Most people spend their lives playing by the rules.
Melissa Allison spent years breaking free from them.
After following the “smart” path—staying in the marriage, following the faith, listening to everyone but herself—she finally asked: What if the thing I fear most… is exactly what I’m meant to do?
That single thought changed everything.
Melissa walked away from a 16-year toxic marriage and the religion she was born into. She went back to college (for the 3rd time)—despite being dyslexic, despite the doubts—and graduated with honors. She let go of the lies that kept her small and chose a life built on freedom, growth, and evolution.
That’s what Loving the F is all about. The fears, the failures, and the freedoms we’ve been told we can’t have.
Because you don’t need permission to go after what you want.
You just need to rewrite the narrative.
Regarding reinvention, Melissa said:
"I wanted to reinvent myself and thought I had to change everything. What I discovered is first, it’s not a reinvention—it’s a remembering. And second, the only thing I had to change was my narrative. Once I did that—everything fell into place."